Bitty Ruminations 77 – Introverts

Posted on June 8, 2013


All this chatter about Naina’s introverted personality in Yeh Jawaani Hai Deewani just goes on to remind me of how little people know about introverts. Rather, how generically an introvert is classified as someone who’ll just sit in a corner and stare at the wallpaper. Like most things in life, introverts come in all shapes and sizes and flavors – but the one common thing is probably that they’re not natural joiners. They hate being in crowds (any gathering with more than five people is a crowd, you know that), they’re uncomfortable having the spotlight turned on them, and in the event that everyone at home is away, they’re just happy to potter about in pajamas, doing nothing, enjoying their own company. I know people who are terrified of being left alone – they have to be on the phone, at least, and hear someone’s voice. An introvert, I guess, is the opposite.

All of this is a preamble to thoughts of being an introvert in this age of too-much-sharing. People just assume they know all there is to know about you because… well, haven’t you spilled it all on FB and Twitter? And when they discover a new facet, they’ll say something really annoying and offensive like: “Really? I didn’t know you liked that?” That could be some kind of music, a type of sport, whatever. If you write about movies and music for a living, for example, and if you make a comment about the grand semifinal yesterday, which was more thrilling than anything Hollywood has given us in the past decade, there’ll be a look of surprise at the other end. If you haven’t bleated out your thoughts on some subject, you’re assumed not to have any thoughts on that subject. Whatever happened to the truth that people are deep, deep mysteries, and that you’re only going to skim the surface with most of them?

PS: Despite the fact that this sounds like a rant, it isn’t one. Merely an observation.

PPS: Any resemblance to real people is entirely coincidental — but then you knew that, right?