(by Vineet Jacob Kuruvilla)
If a movie is named after its lead character, then almost certainly the character will be a terrible person, a friend said to me. I didn’t verify this. He said it in the context of Arjun Reddy. After having watched two seasons of the British TV series Fleabag, I think he is right.
Fleabag is the “name” of the lead character in the series created, written and the titular role played by Phoebe Waller-Bridge. I hadn’t heard of her before…a simple search on the internet tells me she is the “British Lena Dunham”. Fleabag is a foul-mouthed, sex craving, an irreverent, manipulative, young woman who runs a guinea pig themed cafe in London, who is also funny, self-aware and at times sensitive. The opening of the series tells us all we need to know (almost) what kind of person she is. She is drunk and has sex with a hot hunk she had just met and is told in the morning “I have never been able to do it up the bum with anyone before”. She is clearly confused and displeased, and all she can think of is “Do I have a massive arsehole?!”. She is the one that your mother warned you about.
By her own admission, she was drunk enough to be unable to resist him from going “up the bum”. I can’t help thinking, in the times of #MeToo, this would have been on Babe.net. But this is Fleabag, she is supremely self-aware and knows exactly what she is doing and is not shy from owning the consequence of her actions. In a very entertaining fourth wall breaking narrative style, Fleabag is constantly giving us a running commentary on her life as it happens and also what she thinks is going to happen. Her observations are amusing and are right most of the time.
She is a psychopath, in the medical sense of the word. Her understanding of the people around her and how they will react to situations is eerily on the dot. It is not that she is merely observing these events, she is actively manipulating them to achieve what she wants. Sometimes what she wants is sex, sometimes money, and at other times, just wants to irritate the hell out of people. The treatment she metes out to her boyfriend, Harry, who breaks up with her every other week is painful, yet hilarious, to watch. She knows he is an overly sensitive and caring person. He is so caring that when he breaks up with her, he cleans her whole house before leaving. She tells us, the audience, sometimes she patches up with him when the house needs a bit of dusting! And she has the gall to complain about his cleaning not being that great! In their final breakup scene, Harry breaks down and goes on an emotional tirade at her cruelty and the pain of having to love her. She interrupts and nudges him to write down some of the words that are coming out of this verbal deluge so that he can use it in his songs. Brutal! In a laugh out loud moment, she is caught, by Harry, masturbating to Obama’s campaign speech. In an interview to The Guardian, Phoebe Waller-Bridge says “…Wanking about Obama is for me a perfect joke because it felt real. And there was also something joyous about the politics of the time. He was hope, and I was wanking to hope.”. Wicked!
She is evil. In funny as well as in cruel ways. Some of the most amusing sequences in the series are between Fleabag and her Godmother (later stepmother), played by Olivia Colman. Fleabag hates her. No, the hate is mutual. Olivia Colman’s depiction of her dislike couched in the most loving words is delightful to watch. Her old, inarticulate dad, played by Bill Paterson, is totally lost and helpless in this shadow games the women in his household are playing. You feel sorry for him. In one of his rare display of anger, he tells Fleabag, “I deserve to be happy”. There is a cat and mouse game between Fleabag and her Godmother with regards to a sculpture of headless, limbless woman’s torso throughout the series. The sculpture gains significance as more and more layers of Fleabag is peeled off.
Andrew Scott plays the charismatic Catholic priest who will be officiating the wedding between her Dad and Godmother. He is young, charming and handsome, at the same time, litters his conversation with the F-word. In their introduction scene where the priest tries to have small talk with Fleabag over a cigarette, she walks away, probably expecting the usual, annoying and pointless chit chat. He responds “Fuck you then”, when most people would have sheepishly said (to themselves) “See you then”. That look in Fleabag’s eyes, sure she was surprised, but if you know Fleabag, it wasn’t that. We know things are going to go downhill from then. She is a controversy-seeking missile that has a 100% hit rate and with major damage guaranteed.
The most tender moments in the series comes between Fleabag and her sister, Claire (played by Sian Clifford). Those are my favourite moments. It gives us a peek into her mind. A real peek, not the witty and smartass commentary she has been giving us throughout. They are very different in character. Claire is a successful lawyer (or is she in finance?), with a swanky office, has money and gets recognized in her work. She is annoyed by Fleabag’s disorganized, unstable, penniless lifestyle and can’t understand her choices. But, Claire really can’t live without her. She is her only source of strength and mental support. There is a side-splitting sequence about a haircut that underlines how much Claire needs Fleabag. Claire’s husband Martin, played by Brett Gelman, is a dimwitted, jerk. An incident with him is the only thing that Fleabag seemed uncomfortable with. Probably, that’s more to do with her love for Claire than anything to do with her character itself.
Her relationship with her dead friend Boo is a recurring theme in Season 1 & 2. We get snippets of small, intimate moments between the two. Though we only get to see very little of this, this is the undercurrent that is driving her life. The cafe was a joint venture between the two and is run/survived as a monument to their friendship. The death of her mother, followed by the death of Boo has left her with no support structure. The choices she has made since has run through her life like a hurricane, leaving a shambolic mess in its wake. There is a great reveal at the end of Season 1 where everything about Fleabag starts to make sense.
Fleabag might be the ultimate anti-feminist show. Women’s answer to toxic masculinity. The question she asks in the opening of Episode 1 of Season 1, “Do I have a massive arsehole?”, should be read as “Why am I such a massive arsehole?” by the end of the series. She treats her men like shit. As they say about men, she could and would fuck a lamp-post! She swears, she manipulates, she is not afraid to throw a punch (at men). Look at the men around her. The men she toys with are people she can control, either because they are weaklings or they are slaves for sex. Even the men in her family are, in a way, weak. Her dad, an incoherent old man, who finds it difficult to manage his dominating partner, and her brother-in-law, a despicable, drunk fool. If men were to analyse this series as strident feminists do, they would call this a celebration and glorification of toxic feminity. Not one man in this series can stand for himself. Her ex-boyfriend, Harry, is literally shown on the floor, on his knees, scrubbing the floor with sponge and soap. Her pursuit of the Catholic priest is like she saying “mere men are no match for me, I might as well go on a duel with God”. And, towards the end of the series, she gets what she was looking for, love. And this interpretation of her character is not a subjective reading. It is told by Fleabag herself, “I’m a greedy, perverted, selfish, apathetic, cynical, depraved, morally bankrupt woman”. As if trying to understand herself, she says, “Maybe I’m a feminist because I have small tits”!
Fleabag is a hilarious, delightful series with a protagonist you will love and you will hate. The performances by Phoebe Waller-Bridge, Olivia Coleman, Andrew Scott and Sian Clifford are top-notch. This series should be a must-watch for all politically aware people especially in India, where art and politics are getting more and more intertwined, where people demanding political correctness in art are becoming more vocal and shrill. Here is a high-quality piece of art made by a woman, played by women, presented from a woman’s point of view that shows women can be as evil as men. This series will test you, will force you to introspect, and hopefully, you will get your answer.
rbeinr
June 30, 2019
So very well written!
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Madan
June 30, 2019
Haven’t watched but a wonderful write up.
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vinjk
June 30, 2019
Thanks rbeinr and Madan.
For some reason not many people (Indians) are talking abt this series. I came across this only two weeks ago. I was surprised to know that the first season released way back in 2016!
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P S
June 30, 2019
Interesting perspective. I am unable to comprehend though why would the writer think Fleabag is a psychopath in medical sense of the term. Does the fact that she has been unable to establish any longstanding relationship make her a clinical psychopath? How can her attachments with her sister (strong case in point, S02E01) or father, or if we look back, her best friend, be explained then? Where does the final sequence of the second series stand if we take Fleabag to be a psychopath? The writer’s take on the ending tells me that we have very different perspectives about it, I can hardly complain about it there. I would also like to point out the fact that in the very beginning of the series, in the ‘up the bum’ encounter, Fleabag did not resist not because she was too drunk to do so, as the writer seems to suggest. Nothing happens without her eager participation, and she continues to see the person many times after, quite enthusiastically if I might add. The allusions to #metoo are somewhat confusing. And tiny bit of factual error there, Fleabag says she breaks up with Harry whenever the flat needs a bit of cleaning, not patch up. The obsessive cleaning seemed to me to be a character trait, the writer thinks it shows his care for the titular character, fair enough. The writer seemed unable to find any strong male character in the series, well clearly it’s another difference of point of view there. None of the characters are particularly strong or politically correct, that’s what makes them so charmingly human and interesting. And it’s high time that we stop looking at shows/arts made by women through a miasma of Feminism, something, very ironically, Phoebe Waller-Bridge herself has been very vocal about. A woman going through her life in a flawed, frankly problematic way is not making a statement for or against Feminism, her actions need not be made into a political statement on the sole basis of her sex. I am very glad to have come across this write up though, it’s lovely to see that Fleabag is finally being talked about in Indian webspace, it needs to be watched more and discussed across platforms.
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rbeinr
June 30, 2019
Yeah. Even I watched it last month only. I believe there won’t be anymore of it. Two seasons that’s it.
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vogon
June 30, 2019
Really nice write-up.
Phoebe Waller-Bridge is a fantastic talent, one of the best of these times. Her Crashing is interesting too. She sort of walks the fine line between cringy British comedy and boring rom-coms.
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Anu Warrier
June 30, 2019
I was going to write something but PS made my argument very succinctly.
A woman going through her life in a flawed, frankly problematic way is not making a statement for or against Feminism, her actions need not be made into a political statement on the sole basis of her sex.
Thank you for saying that!
I will add that a film made by a woman, starring a woman, need not necessarily be feminist. And I have to wonder, having read two articles now by the same author taking potshots at ‘feminists’, whether Tina was right in saying that this is just trolling for responses.
And vinjk – bad behaviour is bad behaviour, whether it is a man or a woman or any gender at all that is perpetrating it.
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vinjk
July 1, 2019
@PS
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“…I am unable to comprehend though why would the writer think Fleabag is a psychopath in medical sense of the term. Does the fact that she has been unable to establish any longstanding relationship make her a clinical psychopath? How can her attachments with her sister …or father, or …her best friend, be explained then? Where does the final sequence of the second series stand …?
I am not a medical doctor. But based on my understanding of sociopathy (or psychopathy, extreme case of sociopathy), there are levels with this mental disorder. Here’s something I gleaned from a quick search on google…
From https://www.healthyplace.com/personality-disorders/psychopath/can-psychopaths-love-cry-or-experience-happiness :
“The lower on the scale a psychopath is, the more likely they are to develop some sort of love for people such as family members. Psychopaths are much less likely to develop deep bonds with others, however. Interestingly, psychopaths may still want to be loved even if they are almost incapable of truly loving another.”
I think this quote helps explain Fleabag and her relationships. One instance towards the end of Season 1 shows inspite of all the love, even her sister thinks she can’t be trusted.
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“The writer’s take on the ending tells me that we have very different perspectives about it…”
My take is she finds true love but…. (I don’t want to reveal too much)
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“I would also like to point out the fact that in the very beginning of the series, in the ‘up the bum’ encounter, Fleabag did not resist not because she was too drunk to do so, as the writer seems to suggest. ”
Here’s what she says while they were having sex:
“You realize he’s edging towards your arsehole…But, you’re drunk and he’s made the effort to come all the way here….so you let him”
“So you let him” …doesn’t come across to me as she wanted him to go “up the bum”. I understood “let him” as does not want to resist. Also, she let him for two reasons 1. She’s drunk as in not unable to or she too drunk that it’s too much effort to resist and, 2) He’s made the effort.
But felt at that point, she still wasn’ sure whether he was actually doing it. She was just uncomfortable that he is very close to her arsehole. That’s why the following morning when the guy says last night was incredible, she says (to us), “you think it’s an overstatement but then he goes on to say…”.
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Nothing happens without her eager participation, and she continues to see the person many times after, quite enthusiastically if I might add. The allusions to #metoo are somewhat confusing.
I was referring to Aziz Ansari incident, hence the reference to #metoo and babe.net.
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“…Fleabag says she breaks up with Harry whenever the flat needs a bit of cleaning, not patch up.”
You’re right. In my mind the frequency of breakups and patchups were too high that whether he was patching up to clean or breaking up for it was pretty much the same.
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“The obsessive cleaning seemed to me to be a character trait, the writer thinks it shows his care for the titular character, fair enough. ”
I think it’s because he likes her. But might be a character trait. This is just how it came across to me.
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“The writer seemed unable to find any strong male character in the series, well clearly it’s another difference of point of view there. None of the characters are particularly strong or politically correct, that’s what makes them so charmingly human and interesting. ”
They are all charming and interesting and human. But here I use the weak or strong in the same way we find weak women characters in our mainstream movie.
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“And it’s high time that we stop looking at shows/arts made by women through a miasma of Feminism, something , very ironically, Phoebe Waller-Bridge herself has been very vocal about.”
I don’t think that’s the way people are looking at art made by women. For example, last week Brangan reviewed the movie “House Owner”. I didn’t see any feminism being discussed there.
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“A woman going through her life in a flawed, frankly problematic way is not making a statement for or against Feminism, her actions need not be made into a political statement on the sole basis of her sex. ”
Allusions and connection to feminism in the show was made by the Phoebe, the writer of the show.
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“I am very glad to have come across this write up though, it’s lovely to see that Fleabag is finally being talked about in Indian webspace, it needs to be watched more and discussed across platforms.”
Yes, I agree. It’s a fabulous show.
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vinjk
July 1, 2019
@Anu
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“I will add that a film made by a woman, starring a woman, need not necessarily be feminist.”
I agree with you. Art by women need not be a feminist statement just as PS had stated in his/her comment. But this show does make it clear, I think, that this show is (also) about on feminists and feminism. I think you will get it if you have seen the show.
“And I have to wonder, having read two articles now by the same author taking potshots at ‘feminists’, whether Tina was right in saying that this is just trolling for responses.”
If that is how it came across to you, to give you the benefit of the doubt, I will take it as a statement about how poor my writing is.
Well, let me try to defend my writing:
a. The potshots at feminists are not by me, but by Phoebe Waller-Bridge. Look at how I conclude my piece “Fleabag might be the ultimate anti-feminist show. Women’s answer to toxic masculinity.”. Yes, I called it an anti-feminist show, an answer to or equivalent of toxic masculinity. Does it take “potshots at feminists”?
b. I wrote two different articles. The ideas I wanted to present in both articles are also different. It is true that the discussion surrounding the first article was the inspiration for me to write about this show. But, clearly, things I want to convey are very different. Here, I wanted to talk about the show and also ask the readers for a discussion or a rethink on political correctness in cinema and art. This show acts as the perfect counter-factual to all other shows/movies which supposedly glorifying toxic masculinity (most recent one being Kabir Singh). Again, Fleabag is a terrible person, has positive traits as well. You will empathize with her, she gets what he wants and also finds love. At least this is how I interpreted.
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“…bad behaviour is bad behaviour, whether it is a man or a woman or any gender at all that is perpetrating it.”
Did I say that it’s ok for women to be bad? Or that other people (feminists or not) think it’s ok for women to behave badly? Again, must be a problem in my writing. That’s not what I wanted to convey. From the start of the article I call out Fleabag’s terrible behaviour. Here’s some of them:
a. The title “…The One Your Mother Warned You About”
b. “Fleabag is a foul-mouthed, sex craving, an irreverent, manipulative, young woman…”
c. “She is the one that your mother warned you about.” This is where I got the title. This is emphasis.
d. “She is evil.”
e. “The question she asks in the opening of Episode 1 of Season 1, “Do I have a massive arsehole?”, should be read as “Why am I such a massive arsehole?” by the end of the series.”
Anu, I don’t want to make a grand statement as to how grateful I am to all feminists of previous generations and current, women and men. But my request to you is to not make judgments on people you don’t know. Also, don’t judge their intentions. Read the piece for what it’s worth and comment on the content and ideas of it.
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vinjk
July 1, 2019
@vogon
“Phoebe Waller-Bridge is a fantastic talent, one of the best of these times. Her Crashing is interesting too. She sort of walks the fine line between cringy British comedy and boring rom-coms.”
Thanks for reading and commenting on it. She is a fantastic talent. I just started watching Crashing. Not as impressed as I was with Fleabag right from Ep 1. Just happy to have discovered her though!
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vinjk
July 1, 2019
For those who are interested, here’s the The Guardian interview of Phoebe Waller-Bridge I quoted in the article. I loved it!
https://www.theguardian.com/tv-and-radio/2018/sep/08/phoebe-waller-bridge-fleabag-killing-eve-transgressive-women
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Anu Warrier
July 1, 2019
@vinjk – you’re right. I should not have made that statement. I apologise.
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Nandini Tripathi
July 1, 2019
I love love fleabag and I definitely wouldn’t call it an anti-feminist show. It just shows that women are also human ,even though a ussual male portrayal of women might make you believe otherwise.
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vinjk
July 1, 2019
@Anu, No need to apologise. I may well be a troll who likes to write 1500 word troll-pieces! 😛
@Nandini Tripathi, What you said is right. Fleabag shows women can be as evil as men. Look at the show poster
https://www.imdb.com/title/tt5687612/mediaviewer/rm683042304
Fleabag is shown as angelic and divine in a Mother Mary-like pose. That’s some serious trolling!
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Anu Warrier
July 1, 2019
@vinjk – perhaps. But I don’t want to be the person who makes that kind of remark, even on the spur of the moment.
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Kay
March 11, 2020
Vinjk- Contrary to what you have written, I saw Fleabag as a lonely, grieving (which makes her lash out at people), insecure woman trying to cope with the losses she has faced. Like someone crying out for help but doesn’t know how to accept kindness when it’s given. The last scene in S1 does explain a lot about why she’s unable to move on from the friend’s death. She loves and tries to protect the people she loves like her sister, father and Hillary. She’s a complete rebel who tries to tackle her loneliness with meaningless flings.
The second season, on the other hand, was her finding love in the last person anyone should be falling in love with and the relationship was doomed right from the beginning. She’s financially secure and hence, the beginning of the season looked like things looked hopeful for her. But by the end of it she’s back to square one.
The ‘up the bum’ incident makes perfect sense as a woman. Often women are guilt tripped into thinking that just because a guy has taken the effort to come all the way to meet her or (insert bag situation of a guy just doing the bare minimum but it’s appreciated by everyone), a woman feels obliged to consent even when she may not want to. That is real. What I don’t understand is her repeatedly hooking up with the same guy, but it also makes sense that she would considering that she’s insecure and she finds self worth in knowing how sexually desirable she is (this is shown in her complimentary session with the psychiatrist).
Loved the article although it’s complete different from my take on the series.
And PS’s comments. I think you have articulated many of the points which I wanted to say very well.
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vinjk
March 12, 2020
@Kay I have more sympathy for her now, having watched the series multiple times since.
I had to reread my article and comments to remember what I had felt then.
I would love to read your take on the series (a full article!)…
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